How can we stay consistent with limits during stressful periods when it is tempting to relax them? 

Parenting Perspective 

It is during stressful times that our resolve is most tested, and the temptation to relax screen rules for a moment of peace can be strong. However, maintaining consistency during these periods is a powerful way to teach resilience. 

Identify the Triggers for Relaxing Rules 

Recognise in advance the moments you are most likely to give in, such as when you are tired or busy. Acknowledging this helps you to prepare mentally and put safeguards in place before the stress peaks, rather than reacting in the moment. 

Prepare ‘Stress-Proof’ Alternatives 

Have a set of low-effort but engaging activities ready for your child. Simple things like puzzle books, art supplies, or a favourite audiobook can provide stimulation without breaking the screen rules. This gives you a positive alternative to offer instead of just extending their screen time. 

Keep Rules Simple and Clear 

During a particularly stressful week, it is better to simplify the rules than to abandon them completely. You could agree to focus only on the core non-negotiables, such as no screens at mealtimes or before bed. This preserves the structure and shows that boundaries remain important even under pressure. 

Consistency during hard periods teaches children that rules are not dependent on mood or convenience, but on values and priorities. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, consistently upholding good practices, especially when life is challenging, is a sign of both sincerity (ikhlas) and steadfastness (istiqamah). 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Fussilat (41), Verse 30: 

‘Indeed, those who have said, “Our Lord is Allah,” and then remained on a right course – there will be no fear concerning them, nor will they grieve…’ 

This verse highlights that steadfastly holding to what is right, especially during hardship, is a source of divine reassurance and inner peace. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6464, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The most beloved of deeds to Allah are the most consistent of them, even if they are few.’ 

By keeping tech boundaries steady during stressful times, you show your child that commitment to healthy habits is not something to be abandoned when life gets hard. It is precisely in these difficult moments that our values are upheld, modelling resilience in both faith and family life.