Parenting Perspective 

Sometimes children need reassurance in the middle of homework, a family gathering, or even while sitting quietly in class or the masjid. At those moments, words may interrupt or embarrass them, but a discreet non-verbal signal from a parent can give comfort instantly. Developing a small “secret language” of hand signals or glances strengthens connection while respecting the space your child is in. 

Create Simple, Agreed Signals 

• Hand on heart: “I love you, I am with you.” 

• Thumbs up: “I see you, and you are doing well.” 

• A nod with eye contact: “I understand, and it is okay.” 

Agree these signals together so the child knows exactly what they mean. 

Use Them Sparingly 

If you use signals too often, they lose impact. Save them for moments when your child seems nervous, restless, or is looking for reassurance. 

Respect Their Privacy 

Signals are especially helpful with older children or teens who may not want public attention. A quick glance or subtle hand gesture can comfort without drawing notice from others. 

Build It Into Routine 

Practise at home: “When you are nervous, look for my hand on my heart. That means you are safe.” Over time, it becomes a reliable anchor they can count on anywhere. 

These quiet signals remind children that comfort is always available, without the need for interruptions or heavy words. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches that mercy and support can be shown not only through speech but also through gentle presence. Just as the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ often reassured with a touch or a glance, parents can comfort children through small, silent gestures filled with love. 

Guidance from the Noble Quran 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Anfaal (8), Verses 62: 

‘Then if they intend to deceive you (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ), then indeed, Allah (Almighty) is Sufficient for you; He (Allah Almighty) is the One Who shall fortify you with His help, and with the believers.’ 

This reminds us that support often comes through presence and solidarity, not only words. 

Teaching from the Hadith 

It is recorded in Riyadh Al Saliheen, Hadith 355, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘He who does not show mercy to the young, nor acknowledge the honour of the elders, is not one of us.’ 

This teaches us that showing mercy includes subtle, respectful ways of reassurance, which nurture dignity as well as love. 

By offering comfort through discreet signals, you mirror prophetic gentleness. Your child learns that safety does not always need speech; it can be felt in a glance, a gesture, or the quiet assurance that Allah Almighty and their parents are with them.