How can I teach my child to recognise when they are about to lose control and ask for help before it escalates?

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Ra’ad (13), Verse 11: ‘…Indeed, Allah (Almighty) does not alter (the condition) of any nation, unless they start to make positive changes by themselves…’ This verse indicates that being aware of oneself and managing one’s actions are not just psychological aims, but also spiritual duties. Helping your child build these skills enables them to take responsibility for their actions in a manner that is consistent with their natural tendencies. It is recorded in Sunan Abu Dawood, Hadith 4782, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: ‘When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise, he should lie down.’
This Hadith offers a useful example of how to manage emotions effectively. Instructing children to adjust their posture, distance themselves from what troubles them, or seek assistance reflects the behaviour of the Prophet. When your child starts to notice their internal changes and looks for help instead of becoming overwhelmed, they are demonstrating increased maturity. Commend their efforts and consistently make Dua to Allah Almighty to assist them in becoming individuals who acknowledge and amend their own path.