When Parents Struggle with Anger 

When a parent has difficulty managing anger, it can be challenging to help a child navigate their own strong feelings. This challenge can turn into a valuable chance for development and building relationships. Children are very sensitive to the feelings of their parents or guardians. They gain knowledge not just from teaching but also by watching how adults react in stressful situations. When a parent responds in a severe manner, a child might come to believe that anger is something to be ashamed of or afraid of. When a parent recognises their own difficulties and demonstrates how to fix things, it shows the importance of being responsible for one’s emotions. 

Parenting Perspective 

A Practical Approach to Self-Regulation and Repair 

Begin by recognising what triggers you and create a strategy for managing your emotions. This could involve taking a brief break, using a grounding method like resting your hand on your heart, or repeating a short phrase out loud, such as ‘Let me pause.’ If you become angry, go back to your child and say, ‘I did not handle that situation well. I am focussing on maintaining my composure when I experience feelings of being overwhelmed.’ These instances do not diminish your power; they enhance confidence. 

Creating a Family Culture of Self-Control 

Children grow and learn best when they have a steady routine. It is helpful to use basic words to describe feelings at home and to practise with your child how to handle situations when they feel angry. In this manner, your dedication to self-control transforms into a collective family effort, rather than an individual responsibility. 

Spiritual Insight 

The Journey of Purifying the Self 

Allah Almighty says in Surah Al Shams (91) Verse 9: 

‘Without any doubt success is for the one who developed purity (of the self). ‘

This verse speaks to continuous spiritual work, including the refining of emotional habits. 

Sacred Education and Emotional Maturity 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 5027 that the Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ declared: 

‘The best among you (Muslims) are those who learn the Quran and teach it. ‘

Emotional maturity is part of that sacred education. By improving your own temper, you are honouring your role as guardian and guide. A personal reflection such as: ‘Ya Allah, make my heart calm and steadfast’ can be shared with your child. This intimate prayer becomes both spiritual anchor and daily practice, nurturing emotional and ethical growth for both parent and child.