How can I stay patient and calm when I am exhausted too? 

Parenting Perspective 

You Do Not Have to Be Perfect 

Home-schooling can feel like a dream come true, but it can also feel tiring and draining, especially when your own energy is already low. It is perfectly normal to feel exhausted, short-tempered, or stretched thin some days. The first thing to remind yourself is that you do not have to do everything perfectly. 

Pausing, Being Flexible, and Practising Self-Compassion 

Be honest with yourself. When you feel your patience slipping, allow yourself to pause. Sometimes a cup of tea, a few deep breaths, or a few minutes in the garden can help far more than pushing through in frustration. Keep your daily plan flexible. If everyone feels worn out, do not hesitate to swap a heavy topic for a relaxing story time, nature walk, or a craft session instead. 

Speak to yourself as kindly as you would to a good friend. Reach out to a supportive relative or someone you trust to remind you that needing rest does not make you weak. It simply means you are human. When you take care of yourself, you teach your child that patience is not about endless pushing but about knowing when to pause and refill your own cup. 

In the long run, this gentle balance helps your family feel calmer and keeps the spirit of learning joyful. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam beautifully recognises our need for rest, mercy, and self-compassion. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 286: 

‘Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear… ‘

This Ayah is a powerful reminder that we are not expected to push past what our bodies and hearts can handle. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 5199, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ advised moderation: 

‘Your body has a right over you, your eyes have a right over you… ‘

Caring for your mind and body is part of fulfilling this right. Make Dua in moments of exhaustion: ‘O Allah, grant me Sabr and strength, and place Barakah in my time.’ Keep small reminders of hope around your home, an Ayah on the fridge or a short Hadith on your desk can lift you when patience feels thin. If you feel resentment bubbling up, step back and renew your Niyyah: remind yourself why you chose this path and that every ounce of patience is rewarded by Allah Almighty. Share your struggles with Him in Sujood, the place where your worries feel heaviest can also be where you find the most relief. When you take these small steps, your child sees that patience is not about being superhuman but about trusting Allah Almighty’s mercy, practising Sabr when it is hardest, and caring for the heart He entrusted you with, InshaAllah.