How can I set clear limits around YouTube and games for my child? 

Parenting Perspective 

Using Clear Communication and Routines 

Setting healthy boundaries around screen time, especially with platforms like YouTube and gaming apps, begins with clear communication and routine. Establish a consistent daily schedule that includes specific times for digital activities, and keep it visible using charts, whiteboards, or printed cards. When children know what to expect, they are more likely to accept limits without resistance. Explain your reasoning calmly and kindly, ‘We are setting this rule so that your mind stays sharp, your heart stays happy, and your body gets to rest.’ 

Using Timers, Choice, and Positive Reinforcement 

Use countdown timers or calming music as transitions from screen time to other activities. This softens the shift and avoids conflict. Offer your child-controlled choice: ‘Would you like your 20 minutes before or after dinner?’, this gives them a sense of autonomy within the structure. When screen time ends without drama, recognise the effort by saying, ‘I liked how you switched off right on time, that showed great self-control.’ Over time, these positive reinforcements build self-discipline, while your warmth turns digital boundaries into an act of mutual respect. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam champions balance in every area of life, including how we use our time and resources. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Israa (17), Verse 29: 

“And do not place your hands, as if they are chained to your neck (i.e. choking at the prospect of giving wealth); and do not extend (your pocket) to its upper limit (i.e. giving away all your wealth); so that you end up sitting (in a position of) blamed (as reckless by your dependents) and bankrupt. “

Though the verse refers directly to spending, the deeper principle applies to all aspects of moderation, too little, and we deprive ourselves; too much, and we risk harm. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1997, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

“The best of matters are those which are moderate. “

This Hadith reminds us that Islam promotes a balanced path, neither excess nor neglect. Applying this principle to screen time means ensuring that digital engagement does not overtake physical, emotional, or spiritual wellbeing. Teaching this to your child nurtures discipline, awareness, and a respect for time, which is one of the most sacred trusts we are given. 

By guiding your child to enjoy digital tools without becoming dependent on them, you mirror the Prophetic way of using what is beneficial and leaving what may distract. Frame these limits as a form of self-care and obedience to Allah Almighty’s guidance, your child then begins to understand boundaries not as punishment, but as a loving form of protection rooted in wisdom.