How can I remain calm and not take tantrums personally?

It is quite normal for parents to feel personally challenged or emotionally disturbed when a child shows distress by having a tantrum. Tantrums should not be viewed as personal attacks; rather, they are expressions of frustration or unmet needs that are part of development. Children between the ages of 0 and 11 are in the process of developing their ability to manage their emotions and express their feelings. When parents see these episodes as behavioural signals instead of acts of disrespect, it can assist in keeping emotional distance and staying calm. By responding instead of reacting, a parent can assist the child while keeping the situation from getting worse. Practicing deep breathing, using affirmations such as ‘This is not about me,’ and preparing your response ahead of time can strengthen your emotional resilience. By thinking ahead about potential stressors, like mealtimes or changes in routine, a parent can proactively lessen the tension. Creating a peaceful routine and minimising sensory overload in the surroundings can assist in managing emotions for both adults and children.