How can I prepare my child for secondary school? 

Parenting Perspective 

Understanding the Transition 

The transition to secondary school is a big step for any child, but it can feel especially daunting for those with special educational needs (SEN). New teachers, bigger buildings, more students, and changing routines can all create anxiety. With gentle preparation, your child can feel more confident and supported through this new chapter. 

Start Preparations Early 

Start early by talking about secondary school in small, positive ways: ‘You will meet new teachers, make new friends, and learn exciting things.’ If possible, visit the school together a few times before the first day. Walk around the buildings, find key places like the toilets and lunch hall, and practise the route from home. 

Communicate with the School 

If your child has a support plan or SEN needs, meet with the school’s SEN coordinator. Explain your child’s strengths and what helps them cope. Share clear, simple tips: ‘He feels calmer when he knows the day’s plan’ or ‘She needs extra time to settle when things change suddenly.’ 

Practise Practical Skills 

Practise practical skills at home, such as packing a bag, using a timetable, or organising homework. Visual checklists can help children remember what they need each day. Role-play how to ask for help if they get lost or feel overwhelmed. 

Be Honest and Celebrate Milestones 

Be honest about challenges but remain hopeful. Talk about what they can do if they feel stressed: ‘Find a quiet spot. Tell a teacher. Call me if you need to.’ Encourage your child to share their worries with you. Keep your own tone calm; your confidence helps to steady theirs. Celebrate small milestones, like trying on the new uniform or finding a favourite spot at school. Remind them that feeling nervous is normal, as even adults feel this way during big changes. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us that new stages of life come with new tests, but Allah Almighty always provides help and strength. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Ash-Sharh (94), Verses 5–6: 

‘For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease. Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease. ‘

Remind your child that they are never alone; Allah Almighty knows every fear and every small act of courage. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ always encouraged believers to prepare wisely and trust deeply. It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 2119, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Tie your camel and trust in Allah. ‘

This Hadith Shareef shows us that we should take every practical step, then place our hearts in Allah Almighty’s care. 

Make a gentle Dua with your child: ‘O Allah Almighty, make this new school a place of ease and learning for me.’ Remind them that they are capable, brave, and never alone. 

With your calm support, practical routines, and trust in Allah Almighty’s mercy, your child will, InshaAllah, step into secondary school with hope in their heart and the courage to grow into whoever Allah Almighty made them to be.