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How can I model emotional vulnerability without overwhelming my child?

Parenting Perspective

When emotional vulnerability is deliberate and measured, it may be powerful. Express your emotions in a way that your child can comprehend, such as, ‘I feel tired today, and I need some quiet time to recharge,’ rather than letting your child vent your frustration. This helps the youngster learn emotional honesty without putting undue strain on them. Show them that it is normal to feel depressed, anxious, or uncertain, and that we can deal with these feelings by praying and taking care of ourselves.

Spiritual Insight

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ expressed sorrow openly and humbly, especially during times of loss. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Tawbah (9), Verse 128: ‘Without any doubt, there has come to you (O mankind), the Prophet (Muhammad ﷺ) from amongst yourself; (the thought) of your suffering weighs heavily upon him, he is extremely desirous (for the best) for you; and remains most compassionate and most merciful for the believers.’ It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 1303, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ wept when his son Ibrahim passed away and said: ‘The eyes shed tears and the heart is grieved, but we will not say anything except what pleases our Lord.’
Emotional display without hopelessness displays spiritual fortitude and compassion.

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