Parenting Perspective 

Mobile phones, tablets, and laptops can easily find their way into the bedroom, quietly eroding the sense of presence between a couple. Even a quick scroll through social media before sleep can leave partners feeling disconnected from one another. To protect your marital space, it is essential to create a clear and practical plan that makes the bedroom a device-free zone, without it feeling restrictive or punitive. 

Establish a Shared Household Rule 

Begin by agreeing on a simple, shared rule: ‘No devices in the bedroom at night’. It is important to treat this as a mutual value rather than a demand imposed by one person. Framing it positively, for example, by saying, ‘This is our special time to connect without distractions’, helps to make the boundary feel like a shared goal. 

Designate a ‘Parking Spot’ for Devices 

To make the rule practical, designate a specific ‘parking spot’ for all devices outside the bedroom. This could be a decorative basket, a dedicated charging station in the living room, or a particular drawer. The small ritual of placing devices there before entering the bedroom signals a transition: you are now entering a space for connection and rest, not distraction. 

Replace the Habit with a Ritual of Presence 

Often, we turn to our devices to fill gaps of silence or to wind down. It is helpful to replace this habit with small, intentional rituals of presence. This could be a short, quiet chat about your day, making dua together, or even reading a book aloud to one another for a few minutes. These alternatives help to keep the atmosphere in the bedroom warm, intimate, and inviting. 

Handle Slip-Ups with Gentle Reminders 

If one of you forgets the rule and brings a device into the room, it is important to handle it with a gentle reminder, not an accusation. A simple, ‘Let us try to keep our bedroom device-free tonight’, is enough. The aim is consistency and teamwork, not policing each other. This ensures the rule feels like a shared commitment to your relationship. 

By making your bedroom a device-free zone, you are actively protecting your intimacy, modelling a balanced relationship with technology for your children, and reclaiming a sacred space where your relationship can thrive without digital interruptions. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam places great value on being present, focused, and intentional in our relationships, especially with our families. The act of removing distractions to nurture the marital bond is a practical way of fulfilling the responsibility that Allah Almighty has placed upon spouses. 

The Value of Focus and Humility 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Mu’minoon (23), Verses 1–2: 

‘ Indeed, success is for the believers; those people who are focused in their prayers with true humility.’ 

This verse teaches us that true success, even in our worship, comes through focused and humble submission (khushu). This principle can be beautifully applied to our marriages: by humbly setting aside worldly distractions like our phones, we can be more fully present and focused on our spouse. 

Excellence in Family Life 

It is recorded in Mishkaat Al Masaabih, Hadith 5757, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The best of you are those who are best to their families, and I am the best among you to my family.’ 

This profound statement makes it clear that the true measure of our faith is reflected in how we treat our families. Protecting the marital bond by creating intentional, undistracted time for one another is a powerful form of ihsan (excellence) in our conduct. 

By keeping devices out of the bedroom, you live the balance of modern discipline and timeless Islamic values. Your children will witness that true connection is not found in endless scrolling but in being fully present with the people whom Allah Almighty has entrusted to your care.