Parenting Perspective 

Involving children in the act of serving guests is a wonderful way to teach them about hospitality, responsibility, and self-confidence. However, it is important to ensure they are not asked to do too much, as this can lead to them feeling pressured, anxious, or even resentful. The key is to keep their tasks simple and age-appropriate, framing them as acts of kindness rather than demanding chores. 

Start with Small and Simple Roles 

For younger children, assign a single, straightforward role, such as carrying napkins to the table, helping to open the door with you, or offering a bowl of dates. Older children may be capable of pouring water, offering trays of snacks, or helping to clear plates. Beginning with simple, manageable tasks prevents them from feeling overwhelmed and helps to build their confidence for future occasions. 

Give Clear Guidance and Praise 

Before your guests arrive, explain clearly what you would like your child to do. For example, ‘When our guests are seated, you can help by offering them this glass of water.’ Afterwards, be sure to praise their effort sincerely: ‘You did a wonderful job serving our guests with such a lovely smile.’ This kind of positive recognition helps them feel proud of their contribution. 

Foster a Team-Oriented Approach 

Ensure your child understands that everyone in the family contributes to hosting guests, not just them. Work alongside your child so the experience feels like a shared, collaborative effort rather than a solitary duty. This approach demonstrates that serving guests is an important shared family value. 

Spiritual Insight 

Hospitality is a deeply cherished value in Islam, and including children in this practice is a powerful way to help them form a connection between good manners and their faith. 

The Prophetic Example of Hospitality 

The Quran highlights the story of Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) to show that personally serving guests with generosity and haste is a mark of prophetic character. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Dhariyaat (51), Verses 24–26: 

‘ Have you come across the narration of the honourable guests of (Prophet) Ibraheem (AS)? And when they came across him (Ibraheem (AS)) they said: “Peace be on you”; he said (silently): “Peace be on the unidentified nation.” Then he returned to his family and came back with a healthy (roasted) calf.‘ 

Hospitality as an Act of Faith 

The teachings of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ directly link the act of honouring a guest to the core tenets of a Muslim’s belief. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1967, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should honour his guest, by giving him his reward.’ They asked, ‘What is his reward, O Messenger of Allah?’ He said, ‘A day and a night of special treatment, and hospitality is for three days. What is beyond that is charity.’ 

By involving your child in simple acts of service, you not only build their confidence but also help them practise a beautiful Islamic tradition of generosity. They will learn that even small efforts in hospitality are a means of earning the pleasure of Allah and spreading blessings in the home.