Parenting Perspective 

Discipline is not only about correcting a child’s behaviour; it is also about guiding them towards values that encourage self-regulation. Introducing prayer or dua as part of this process can teach a child to connect their actions to Allah and to reflect calmly, rather than just reacting to a consequence. The key is to do this gently, so that turning to Allah feels like a source of comfort, not an extension of their punishment.

 

Use Prayer as a Reset, Not a Punishment 

If your child has misbehaved and is feeling upset, you can invite them to pause and say a short dua with you. A simple supplication, such as asking Allah for help to calm down, can be very effective. This frames prayer as a positive tool for self-regulation, rather than as a threat or a chore associated with their misbehaviour. 

Build Gentle Habits 

Encourage the habit of making regular dua at natural moments throughout the day, such as before sleeping, after an argument, or whenever they feel upset. By linking the act of prayer to moments that require calmness and reflection, you can teach your child that turning to Allah is a natural and helpful part of solving problems. 

Model It Yourself 

Your own example is the most powerful teacher. When you are feeling frustrated or overwhelmed, you can say aloud, ‘I am feeling upset right now, so I am going to make a dua for patience.’ Children who see their parents turning to prayer as a healthy response to strong emotions will naturally begin to imitate this pattern in their own lives. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches that prayer and the remembrance of Allah are the greatest means of calming the heart and reforming one’s behaviour. Parents can gently weave these beautiful practices into their discipline so that their children grow up seeing their faith as a source of guidance and mercy. 

The Path to a Tranquil Heart 

The Quran teaches that true inner peace and self-control flow from the remembrance of Allah, especially during moments of stress or agitation. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Ra’ad (13), Verses 28: 

‘…Indeed, it is only with the remembrance of Allah (Almighty) that one can (and does) find peace of mind and heart.’ 

The Honour of Supplication 

The prophetic tradition describes supplication (dua) as one of the most honoured acts of worship in the sight of Allah, making it a powerful tool for spiritual growth and self-improvement. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 3371, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘There is nothing more honourable to Allah than supplication.’ 

By introducing prayer as a component of discipline, you are aligning your correction with spiritual growth. Your child learns that their mistakes are not just to be punished, but can be forgiven and improved upon by turning back to Allah, which nurtures both their sense of responsibility and their faith.