Parenting Perspective 

Explain Respect as Coexistence, Not Compromise 

Children can sometimes feel that respecting another person’s differences means they have to weaken their own identity. It is important to reassure them that valuing diversity does not mean you must copy it. You can explain, ‘We can respect our friend’s traditions without having to follow them ourselves. Our own identity remains strong because we are confident in who we are.’ This helps them to see respect as an act of coexistence, not compromise. 

Strengthen Belonging While Encouraging Respect 

To build this confidence, give your child plenty of opportunities to feel secure and rooted in their own Islamic identity, such as by praying together or reading stories of the prophets. At the same time, praise them warmly when you see them showing respect for others: ‘It was very kind of you to listen so respectfully to your friend.’ This balance allows them to be confident in their faith while also being open-hearted. 

Respect Strengthens, Not Weakens, the Self 

By reinforcing belonging at home and kindness outside, you help them see that respecting differences strengthens, rather than weakens, their sense of self. This gives them the tools to interact with kindness in diverse environments. 

Spiritual Insight 

Diversity is for Connection, Not Conformity 

Islam honours the diversity of humanity as a sign of Allah’s wisdom. The Quran teaches that our differences are not meant to be a source of conflict or a reason to abandon our own identity, but are an invitation to learn from one another. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 13: 

‘O mankind, indeed, We (Allah Almighty) have created you all from one man and one woman; and placed you amongst various nations and tribes for your introduction to each other; indeed, the best of you in the judgement of Allah (Almighty) is the one who is most virtuous…’ 

Holding Firm to Faith is a Source of Honour 

The prophetic tradition teaches that holding firmly to one’s faith, especially when it may seem ‘strange’ to others, is a source of great honour and reward. This gives a believer confidence in their identity, even when they are in the minority. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, 3986, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Islam began as something strange and will return to being strange as it began, so give glad tidings to the strangers.’ 

Confidence in Faith, Compassion for Others 

When you show your child that it is possible to respect others while remaining confident in their own deen, they learn a vital lesson. They see that valuing differences can enrich their life, while their Islamic identity provides a firm anchor. This beautiful balance helps to nurture confidence, humility, and compassion.