Parenting Perspective 

Address the Behaviour Calmly 

Cheating during a game is often a sign that a child is struggling with the idea of losing. The best response is to remain calm rather than reacting harshly. Pause the game and address the behaviour directly: ‘I noticed you took an extra turn. It is important that we all follow the same rules so the game is fair for everyone.’ It is crucial to address the specific action without labelling the child as a ‘cheater,’ as this can cause shame. 

Teach Honesty in a Safe Way 

You can explain that games are only enjoyable when everyone trusts each other to follow the rules. A simple phrase like, ‘Winning by cheating does not feel as good as winning fairly,’ can be very effective. Parents should also make a point of praising truthful behaviour, especially when it leads to a loss: ‘I am so proud of you for playing honestly, even though you did not win.’ This teaches that integrity is more valuable than victory. 

Model Integrity Yourself 

Children learn a great deal from observation. If you make a mistake during a game, you should admit it openly and correct it. This shows your child that honesty is valued and respected in the family, even in small things. This consistent modelling, combined with gentle correction, will help them to understand that following the rules makes games more enjoyable for everyone. 

Spiritual Insight 

Speak Words of Justice 

Islam holds truthfulness and justice as pillars of good character. The Quran commands believers to fear Allah and to speak words that are just and appropriate, a principle that applies to all situations, including play. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Ahzab (33), Verse 70: 

‘O those of you, who are believers, seek piety from Allah (Almighty) and always speak with words of blatant accuracy.’ 

Truthfulness Leads to Paradise 

The prophetic tradition teaches that the habit of truthfulness, practised consistently even in small matters, is a path that leads directly to righteousness and, ultimately, to Paradise. Conversely, falsehood leads down a destructive path. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, 6094, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to speak the truth until he becomes a truthful person. Falsehood leads to wickedness, and wickedness leads to the Fire’ 

Playing Fairly is an Act of Worship 

When you connect the idea of fair play to the Islamic value of honesty, your child learns that how they play is more important than if they win. This approach helps to instil a deep sense of integrity and accountability, turning simple board games into valuable training for a life of sincerity.