Parenting Perspective 

When children see their classmates being dishonest without facing any consequences, they may start to wonder if being truthful is worth the effort. A parent’s role is to help them understand that honesty is about the kind of person they want to be, not about following the crowd. 

Emphasise Personal Integrity 

You can explain to your child: ‘What other people choose to do is their responsibility, but your choice to be honest shows the strength of your character.’ This helps to frame honesty not as a rule that can be broken, but as a core part of their personal integrity and self-respect. 

Explain the Long-Term Value of Honesty 

Explain that while a dishonest person might seem to get away with it in the short term, they are damaging something far more valuable: trust. Honesty builds a reputation for reliability that will benefit them for their entire lives. You can use simple, age-appropriate examples to show how respected and trusted people are those who are known for their truthfulness. 

Praise Their Courage to Stand Apart 

Whenever your child makes the difficult choice to be honest when others are not, it is a crucial moment for praise. Acknowledging their action by saying, ‘That took a lot of courage, and I am so proud of you for standing by what is right,’ gives them the motivation to continue choosing the honest path. 

Spiritual Insight 

Stand Firm for Justice 

Islam teaches that a believer’s standard for behaviour is set by Allah, not by what is popular or common among their peers. The Quran commands us to stand firm for justice and be truthful witnesses, even if we are the only ones doing so. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Maaidah (5), Verse 8: 

‘You who are believers, become steadfast (in your devotion) to Allah (Almighty), corroborating all of that which is just; and never let your hatred of any nation prevent you from being just, – let justice prevail…’ 

Dishonesty is a Sign of a Hypocrite 

The prophetic tradition warns that dishonesty is a defining trait of a hypocrite. This teaches us that avoiding falsehood is not just a social matter, but is essential for protecting the sincerity of one’s faith. 

It is recorded in Mishkaat Al Masaabih, 55, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The signs of a hypocrite are three: when he speaks, he lies; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he is entrusted, he betrays the trust.’ 

Honesty is About Standing Firm in Faith 

By teaching your child that their honesty aligns them with the values beloved by Allah, you give them a powerful reason to rise above peer pressure. They will learn over time that honesty is not about blending in with the crowd, but about standing firm with dignity and faith.