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How can I create a home where my child’s feelings are welcomed instead of judged? 

Parenting Perspective

Serve as an example of emotional acceptance. Say ‘Thank you for telling me’ or ‘That feeling is allowed here’ if your youngster is distressed. Steer clear of statements like ‘Stop overreacting’ or ‘You are too sensitive.’ Establish regulations based on respect rather than oppression. ‘It sounds like you feel embarrassed; that can be tough’ is a gentle way to help them identify their feelings. Your youngster learns to express rather than repress their emotions when they realize that doing so does not result in punishment.  

Spiritual Insight

Islamic parenting begins with Rahmah. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 11: ‘…do not let a nation ridicule another nation, as perhaps it may be that they are better than them…’ Disregarding or making fun of feelings is a subtle kind of mockery. It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1919, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said, ‘He who does not show mercy to our children and honour our elders is not one of us. A house founded on mercy encourages sincerity, tenderness, and emotional development.  

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