How can families stop device use from becoming the trigger for almost every argument at home? 

Parenting Perspective 

When devices become the flashpoint for daily arguments, from bedtime battles over screen limits to sibling fights over shared tablets, the entire home can feel overwhelmed by tension. Rather than allowing technology to dictate the mood of the family, parents can take proactive steps to significantly reduce conflict and restore a sense of calm. 

Shift the Focus From Devices to Routines 

Conflict often arises when devices are treated as the ‘main event’ of the day. Instead of framing every rule around screens, it is more effective to build daily routines where technology naturally fits in after other responsibilities are met. For example: ‘First we do our homework, then we have dinner together, and then it is device time.’ When rules are woven into structure, they feel less like arbitrary restrictions. 

Create Clear, Agreed Family Rules 

Hold a brief family meeting during a calm moment to establish clear screen time guidelines together. This could include rules like no phones during meals, a set time for devices to be put away at night, and agreed-upon limits for gaming. When children feel involved in creating rules, they develop a greater sense of ownership and are less likely to argue against them. 

Avoid Power Struggles 

Instead of getting drawn into shouting matches, focus on calm, consistent enforcement. You can acknowledge your child’s feelings while holding the boundary firmly: ‘I understand you are upset, but the rule has not changed. We can talk about this again when you are feeling calmer.’ Arguments quickly lose their power when parents refuse to fuel them with anger. 

Bring in Positive Alternatives 

Actively reduce the importance of screens by introducing appealing shared activities. Simple things like a regular family walk, a weekly board game night, or cooking a meal together can provide positive connection and enjoyment, making technology a less central part of family life. 

By reducing the emotional weight placed on devices and instead focusing on routines, clarity, and connection, families can reclaim a sense of peace and harmony in their home. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islamic teachings guide us to create households where disputes do not dominate the atmosphere, and where mercy, fairness, and self-control are the guiding principles. If arguments are constantly revolving around devices, it is a clear signal that the home needs to be realigned with a greater sense of balance and wisdom. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujurat (49), Verses 10: 

‘The believers are but brothers, so make settlement between your brothers. And fear Allah that you may receive mercy…’ 

This verse reminds us that actively working to restore peace and unity within the family is a responsibility that is deeply connected to our faith and our consciousness of Allah. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6114, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The strong person is not the one who overpowers others, but the strong person is the one who controls himself when angry.’ 

This teaching provides a powerful model for parenting. It shows that strength in family life comes not from winning arguments or imposing one’s will, but from managing one’s own anger and preserving harmony. 

By grounding their approach to technology in the principles of calmness, justice, and mercy, families can prevent screens from being a constant trigger for conflict. Over time, this helps children to internalise a crucial lesson: that peace within the home is far more valuable than any device, and that the gift of family unity is itself a profound blessing from Allah Almighty.