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Can arguments at home impact learning?

Parenting Perspective

Yes, arguments at home, especially when frequent or intense, can have a significant negative effect on a child’s ability to learn. The early years are a time of rapid brain development, and the emotional environment plays a powerful role in shaping that development. When children are exposed to shouting, unresolved conflict, or even silent tension between adults, their stress levels rise. This is not just emotional discomfort, it is a biological response. The body produces stress hormones like cortisol, which interfere with sleep, concentration, and memory formation. These disruptions can result in decreased attention span, slower language development, and difficulties in social interaction.
Children may respond in different ways depending on their temperament. Some may become quiet, withdrawn, or anxious, while others may act out, mimic aggressive behaviours, or struggle to regulate their emotions. Even if the conflict does not involve the child directly, simply hearing raised voices or sensing hostility can leave them feeling unsafe. Learning cannot flourish in a state of emotional unrest. Curiosity, creativity, and confidence all require a foundation of calm and security.
Parents are not expected to never disagree. What matters is how conflict is managed. Speaking with respect, resolving disputes away from children when possible, and returning to a calm, loving tone afterwards can teach children healthy models of communication. Children do not need perfect homes, they need homes where peace is valued, emotional repair is modelled, and love is constant. Protecting your child’s emotional environment is one of the most powerful ways to support their intellectual growth.

Spiritual Insight

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Furqaan (25), Verse 63: ‘And the true servants of the One Who is Most Beneficent are those who, wander around the Earth with humility; and when they are addressed by the ignorant people, they say: ‘peace be unto you’.’ This Ayah highlights the strength found in calmness, restraint, and dignified response. Islam teaches that peace begins within the home and spreads outward. Responding with gentleness, even under pressure, is not a sign of weakness but a sign of Taqwa and inner stability. Children raised in such an atmosphere absorb these traits naturally, learning that kindness is power and that respect begins with family.

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 3517, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: ‘The best of you are those who are best to their families.’ This Hadith Shareef elevates the role of family relationships to a marker of spiritual excellence. The home is a sacred ground where emotional and moral development unfold. When disagreements are handled with compassion and clarity, the child learns not only about emotional safety but also about justice, forgiveness, and humility.

A peaceful household becomes the soil where minds are nourished, and character is formed. The way we speak to one another, especially in challenging moments, writes lasting lessons into the hearts of our children. Protecting your home from damaging conflict is not just emotional care, it is a form of spiritual stewardship that allows learning and faith to take root side by side.


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