What can I do when my child blames ‘the wind’ for a slammed door they kicked? 

Parenting Perspective 

When a child blames “the wind” after they clearly kicked or slammed a door, they are attempting to dodge shame and the worry of receiving punishment. Your aim is not to catch them out or humiliate them, but to coach honesty, self-control, and physical repair so that telling the truth feels safer than creating an excuse. 

Name the Excuse and Lower the Heat 

You must keep your tone steady, calm, and factual. Say: “I saw your foot hit the door and I heard it slam. Saying it was the wind is an excuse. You are safe to tell the truth here.” Sit side by side and allow ten seconds of quiet so that they have a chance to try again. A calm, direct invitation reduces fear and opens the door to honest communication. 

Separate Intent from Impact 

Protect their dignity while making accountability non-negotiable: “You were angry, which is understandable. However, the door was still slammed and people were startled. We take responsibility for what happened and for what we will do next time.” This framing shows them that admitting the act does not make them “bad”; it makes them brave and trustworthy. 

Redirect to a Fair Repair 

Match the repair directly to the harm caused by the incident: 

• Require them to check the hinge and screws. 

• Add or replace a door stopper. 

• Wipe away any scuff marks. 

• Contribute a small amount towards any necessary repair cost. 

Practice a “calm close” routine together until they can execute it gently. Praise ownership rather than expecting immediate perfection: “You told the truth and fixed what you could. That is responsible.” 

Install One Prevention Habit 

Agree upon one simple safeguard that the child states aloud: this could be a pause-and-breathe cue, a firm “hands off doors when upset” rule, or stepping away from the area for one full minute before moving. End with warmth: “You are learning strong self-control. I trust you to use it next time.” The message is clear: we do not hide behind the wind; we tell the truth, repair the door, and practise calmer exits. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam trains the heart to love truth more than saving face. A playful deflection like “the wind did it” may protect pride for a fleeting moment, but it corrodes trust with people and weighs on the conscience before Allah Almighty. Guiding your child to drop the excuse, state what really happened, and make a concrete repair turns an angry impulse into a step of faith that is directly connected to this incident of the slammed door. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Qiyamah (75), Verses 14–15: 

‘Not at all, (every part of the anatomy of) mankind shall be called as an eye- witness upon themselves, even though he may (attempt) to present excuses.’ 

This ayah speaks directly to the “wind” story. Our hearts inherently know the truth even while our mouths create excuses. When your child admits, “I kicked it,” and then actively tightens the hinge, adds a stopper, and practices a softer close, they are moving from excuse to witness—from pretense to honest self-assessment—in this very doorway moment. 

The Prophetic guidance provides a clear path for redemption after a mistake. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1987, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Fear Allah wherever you are, follow the bad deed with a good one to erase it, and treat people with good character.’ 

Link this hadith directly to the slammed door: first, “fear Allah wherever you are” means even in a hallway when angry; second, “follow the bad deed with a good one” means repair the door, clean the marks, apologise for the fright, and practise the calm-close; third, “good character” means choosing restraint next time. Tell your child: “When you drop the excuse, fix the door, and practise a softer close, you are doing the good deed that wipes out the bad one.” In these small, specific steps, they learn to meet anger with truth, repair, and better manners for the sake of Allah Almighty.