What faith-based reflection helps them check their tone? 

Parenting Perspective 

A person’s tone of voice often reveals more than their words. A child might agree to do a task but respond with sarcasm or impatience. Teaching them a simple, faith-based reflection can help them to pause and measure their tone before speaking, helping them to realise that the manner of their voice is just as important as their actions. 

Link Tone to Inner Character 

Explain to your child that the way they say something shows what is in their heart. You could say, ‘A respectful tone makes your words feel strong and true, but a harsh tone can weaken them and make them sound unkind.’ This simple link encourages them to think before they speak and to choose a manner that reflects their inner goodness. 

Encourage Moments of Self-Reflection 

You can teach your child to perform a quick self-check before they respond in a moment of frustration. Encourage them to silently ask themselves a simple question: ‘Would Allah be pleased with the way I am about to speak?’ This short, private reflection connects their everyday speech with their accountability to their faith. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches that our speech is a direct reflection of what is in our hearts. A calm and respectful tone is considered a sign of strong faith (iman) and good character (akhlaq). 

The Command for a Moderate Voice 

The Quran explicitly discourages the use of a harsh or raised voice, teaching that a gentle and respectful tone is a quality that is beloved to Allah. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Luqman (31), Verses 19: 

‘And be modest in your attitude and lower your voice (in dealing with people); as indeed, the harshest of all sounds, is the noise of the donkeys.’ 

Speech as a Branch of Faith 

The prophetic tradition teaches that our tone and choice of words are directly linked to the state of our faith, and that a harsh manner of speaking is a sign of hypocrisy. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 2027, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Modesty and good speech are two branches of faith, while foul language and harshness are two branches of hypocrisy.’ 

By giving your child this simple spiritual reflection, you are showing them that their tone of voice is not a small detail, but a measure of their faith and character. They learn that speaking kindly is a part of worship, and that every respectful response is a step towards pleasing Allah and living with dignity.