How can I encourage siblings to express frustration without sarcasm? 

Parenting Perspective 

Teaching Clear and Honest Statements 

Sarcasm between siblings often becomes a default way to express frustration, but it typically leaves one child hurt and the other unchecked. To replace sarcasm, you must model and teach healthier ways of communicating strong emotions. This does not mean silencing their feelings; it means providing them with the tools to communicate honestly without resorting to mockery. 

You should coach your children to replace sarcasm with direct and clear statements. For example, instead of saying, “Wow, thanks for stealing my stuff,” they could say, “I am upset you took my things without asking.” You can even role-play these scenarios at home so they can practise. 

Upholding a No-Sarcasm Rule 

You must make it clear that sarcasm is not acceptable in your household. When you hear it, calmly intervene and stop the exchange by saying, “Try again, but with respectful words.” This consistent correction helps to build new habits over time. 

You should also model frustration management yourself. Show your children how you express irritation without sarcasm. For instance, saying, “I feel tired right now, so let us talk later,” demonstrates how emotions can be shared respectfully. Children are more likely to copy what they see rather than what they are told. By replacing sarcasm with constructive communication, you protect sibling bonds while teaching them lifelong skills of honesty, empathy, and respect. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Israa (17), Verse 53: 

‘And inform My servants that they should speak in only the politest manner (when they speak to the extremists in disbelief); indeed, Satan is (always ready for) infusing anarchy between them…’ 

This verse reminds us that careless or biting words can open the door to division, while the best words bring peace and closeness. 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 3559, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The most beloved to me amongst you are those who have the best manners.’ 

This teaches us that respect and good manners, even in moments of frustration, are a part of true faith. When you guide your children to abandon sarcasm and use clear words, you nurture an environment of honesty and respect. They will learn that while frustration is natural, our faith teaches us to channel it with dignity. Over time, this strengthens their sibling relationship and helps them grow into adults who resolve conflict with compassion rather than cutting words.