How can I address sarcastic remarks between siblings calmly? 

Parenting Perspective 

The Problem with Sarcasm 

Sibling sarcasm often begins as playful teasing but can quickly become a tool for disrespect and unkindness. If you react angrily, you risk fuelling the conflict, but ignoring it can normalise hurtful communication. The key is to intervene calmly, making it clear that sarcasm is unacceptable while guiding your children towards healthier ways of speaking. 

Stepping In Firmly and Gently 

You should intervene with a calm but steady tone, saying something like, “That sounded sarcastic. In this house, we speak respectfully.” Keep your intervention brief so the message is clear without adding unnecessary drama. 

You must also teach them to rephrase their words. Show your children how to turn sarcasm into honest feelings. For example, you can say, “Instead of saying that in a mocking way, you could say: ‘I feel annoyed because you borrowed my things without asking.’” This method builds emotional awareness and encourages honest communication. 

You should also encourage them to make amends and reset the situation. Once things have cooled down, guide the child who was sarcastic to make things right. You can say, “Try saying that again kindly.” Giving them a second chance reinforces the idea that respect is expected, but mistakes can be repaired. By addressing sarcasm this way, you prevent sibling bonds from being damaged by repeated mockery and create a family environment where respect and honesty are non-negotiable. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 11: 

‘Those of you who are believers, do not let a nation ridicule another nation, as perhaps it may be that they are better than them…’ 

This verse reminds us that mockery, even in the form of sarcasm, is forbidden and erodes the love between people. 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 48, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or remain silent.’ 

This teaches us that silence is better than words that hurt and that respectful speech is a sign of true belief. When you address sarcasm between siblings with calm firmness, you uphold both discipline and mercy. Your children learn that while frustration between siblings is normal, sarcasm is harmful and contrary to Islamic character. Over time, this nurtures bonds of respect, empathy, and sincere affection within the family.