How to Remind Them of Islamic Etiquette in Public Without Shaming 

Parenting Perspective 

Correcting children in public can be a delicate task. If it is done harshly, it may embarrass them and damage the trust between you. The goal is to remind them of Islamic etiquette quietly and gently, so they learn without feeling exposed. This not only preserves their dignity but also reinforces the values you want to instil. 

Use Quiet, Private Cues 

Instead of correcting loudly, use a gentle hand on their shoulder, make eye contact, or whisper softly, “Remember your manners.” This signals that a correction is needed without drawing public attention to the situation. 

Keep It Short and Calm 

Avoid lengthy explanations in public. A simple reminder like, “Lower your voice,” or “Say thank you,” works better than a lecture. The deeper teaching can happen later when you are home. 

Praise Correct Behaviour Afterwards 

When they manage to act politely, be sure to acknowledge it. You can say, “I liked how you greeted that person politely earlier; that is sunnah behaviour.” This reinforces the lesson positively and builds their motivation to repeat the good behaviour. 

This approach helps your child understand that etiquette is important but also preserves their sense of respect and belonging in public spaces. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islamic teachings remind us that shaming or mocking, even when correcting someone, is against the spirit of our faith. Dignity should always be preserved, and gentleness should be used as a primary tool for correction. 

Guidance from the noble Quran 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 11: 

‘Those of you who are believers, do not let a nation ridicule another nation, as perhaps it may be that they are better than them…’ 

This verse reminds us that shaming or mocking others, even when we are correcting them, is against the spirit of Islam and that dignity should always be preserved. 

Teachings of the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 3688, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Allah is gentle and loves gentleness, and He rewards for gentleness what He does not reward for harshness.’ 

This Hadith teaches us that a correction given with gentleness carries greater weight and a greater blessing than one given with harsh words. 

By reminding your child of Islamic etiquette gently in public, you are following the prophetic model of wisdom and compassion. Your child will learn that faith is not about shame but about dignity and that respect can be upheld without humiliation. This will build both their manners and their trust in you as their guide.