What faith-based reminders can help calm their communication? 

Parenting Perspective 

Children can easily pick up hurried or sharp tones of voice when they are feeling stressed or emotional. Faith-based reminders can be a powerful way to help calm their communication, not as heavy lectures, but as gentle cues that tie their daily behaviour to values they recognise. These reminders work best when they are short, practical, and delivered with warmth, so they feel like guidance, not criticism. 

Link Respect to Reward 

You can offer short and simple reminders that connect politeness directly to faith. For example, you might gently say, ‘Remember that Allah loves it when we use kind words with each other.’ This encourages your child to see respectful speech not just as a rule to be followed, but as a beautiful act of worship. 

Use Dhikr and Short Duas 

Encourage your child to turn to the remembrance of Allah (dhikr) during tense moments. A simple prompt to say Bismillah before speaking, or a short dua like, ‘O Allah, please grant me patience,’ can be very effective. These small habits help to shift their focus from frustration to calm reflection. 

Model Faith in Action 

Let your child see you putting your own faith into practice. When you say ‘Alhamdulillah’ after something goes wrong, or you make a conscious effort to lower your own voice when you are feeling upset, you are teaching a powerful lesson. Children learn how to live their faith not just from your words, but from your example. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches that good character is a direct reflection of a person’s faith. Calm and respectful speech is considered a part of taqwa (consciousness of Allah), and gentle reminders from the Quran and Sunnah can help to anchor our communication in mercy and patience. 

The Command for Good Speech 

The Quran reminds us that speaking good words to people is not an optional extra, but a command from Allah that is mentioned alongside foundational duties like prayer. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verses 83: 

‘…and speak to the people with dignity, and establish your prayers, and give your benevolent donations – ‘Zakah’; …’ 

Speech as a Sign of Faith 

The prophetic tradition establishes a clear and profound link between a person’s faith and the way they use their tongue. Calm, thoughtful communication is presented as one of the clearest signs of a true believer. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6018, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak what is good or remain silent.’ 

By using gentle faith-based reminders, you are guiding your child to see that their words are a part of their worship. They learn that respectful speech is not only about avoiding trouble at home, but about pleasing Allah, which brings peace to both their heart and the family.