How do I encourage my child to bring good habits home instead of bad ones? 

Parenting Perspective 

It is discouraging when children seem to only bring home negative habits from the outside world, such as rude language or laziness, rather than positive ones. The same powerful instinct for imitation that spreads negative behaviour can also be channelled for good. Children naturally mirror what they admire. By showing your child that good habits are what truly earn appreciation and respect, you can guide them to adopt these behaviours as part of their own identity. 

Show Interest in the Good They Observe 

When your child mentions a peer or teacher with a positive habit, such as kindness, diligence, or punctuality, use it as a teaching moment. 

‘It is wonderful that your friend is so good at sharing. Sharing is a sign of a generous and strong character.’ 

This helps your child to consciously connect admiration with positive traits, not just with what seems popular or exciting. 

Praise and Celebrate Good Habits at Home 

When your child brings a good habit into your home, no matter how small, acknowledge it with warmth and gratitude. 

‘I noticed you put your bag away neatly, just like your teacher encourages. That shows great organisation, and I am proud of you.’ 

This positive reinforcement makes good habits feel rewarding and worth repeating. 

Create Opportunities to Practise Good Habits 

Give your child the space and encouragement to integrate positive behaviours into their home life. 

• If they have learned about helpfulness, allow them to assist you with small, meaningful chores. 

• If they are copying politeness they saw, encourage them to greet visitors or thank family members. 

The more they practise a positive habit, the more deeply it becomes a part of their character. 

Provide Role Models and Stories 

Share real-life examples and Islamic stories of individuals who are known for their excellent character. When children see that true heroes and admirable figures are defined by their noble habits, they are inspired to imitate the right examples. 

Balance Correction with Encouragement 

While it is necessary to correct bad habits calmly and firmly, it is far more effective to give the majority of your attention to the good ones. Children will naturally gravitate towards what brings them the most positive recognition. By consistently emphasising their good choices, you gently and effectively shift their focus away from negative imitation. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam places immense emphasis on the active cultivation of good character, reminding us that true believers are recognised by their excellent habits. Encouraging a child to adopt and practise good habits is not merely about improving their manners; it is about nurturing their faith and strengthening their Muslim identity. 

True and lasting success is defined by habits of discipline, humility, and consciousness of Allah. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Mu’minoon (23), Verses 1–2: 

‘ Indeed, success is for the believers; those people who are focused in their prayers with true humility.‘ 

This verse, at the beginning of a chapter defining the successful believer, immediately links success to a foundational habit: humble prayer. This teaches us that our daily habits are the building blocks of our spiritual success. 

Good character is the single most important measure of a person’s worth. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 2003, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The most beloved of you to me are those who have the best character.’ 

This hadith teaches a profound lesson: the path to becoming beloved to the Prophet ﷺ and to Allah is through the refinement of our character and habits. When you encourage your child to adopt and practise good habits, you are not just improving your home environment; you are shaping their soul. You are teaching them that true honour lies in bringing home kindness, discipline, and respect habits that will beautify their character in this world and the next.