Managing Resistance to New Routines 

Changes to daily routines can often make a child feel uncertain and less secure. Children may react with defiance, complaints, or even frustration when faced with changes such as a new school term, adjustments to their bedtime, or daily obligations. This is particularly frequent in children, a period when they are still learning to think flexibly and manage their emotions. A child may see change as losing control or worry about not being able to succeed. Often, angry responses stem from underlying fears that are not immediately visible. 

Parenting Perspective 

Practical Strategies for a Smooth Transition 

To minimise resistance, start by presenting the change in a timely and straightforward manner. Outline the sequence of events and the timeline, employing a steady and assured tone. Provide options whenever you can, even if they are minor, to help regain a feeling of control: ‘Would you prefer to start getting ready now or in five minutes?’ Develop visual schedules for younger children and provide verbal prompts for older children. Utilise role-playing or straightforward scripting to help them get ready emotionally. ‘In the morning, we will put on our clothes first, and then we will eat breakfast together.’ When faced with resistance, it is important to respond calmly and with understanding: ‘Change can be difficult. I am here to assist you with this matter.’ As time goes on, these organised and supportive actions help establish confidence in the change process and in the parent’s steady guidance. 

Spiritual Insight 

The Capacity to Handle Change 

Allah Almighty affirms in Surah Al Baqarah (2) Verse 286: 

‘Allah (Almighty) does not place any burden on any human being except that which is within his capacity…. ‘

This verse reassures that change is within our capacity to handle. It reminds parents that harmony is preserved not through pressure, but through Sabr and Taqwa. When a child struggles with new routines, it becomes a moment not only to assert structure, but to embody steadfast patience and calm presence. 

The Guiding Light of Gentleness 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 3689 that the Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Allah is Gentle and loves gentleness in all things. ‘

 This Hadith is a guiding light for any parent navigating pushback. Approach the moment with Rahmah rather than frustration, especially if the child is younger or going through emotional adjustments. Reassure them with the short Dua: ‘Allahumma inni a’udhu bika min munkaratil akhlaaq’ (O Allah, I seek refuge with You from bad character.’ This can be quietly said by the parent in times of stress. With spiritual anchoring and practical strategies, a parent’s gentle strength becomes the child’s most reliable compass through life’s changes.