Parenting Perspective 

Involve Them in the Planning 

Disagreements often arise when children are asked to complete a task together, usually because of unclear roles or a struggle for control. The key is to provide structure. The best way to start is by involving both children in the planning stage: ‘How should we divide this job so it is fair for both of you?’ This makes them feel heard and respected. Then, break the task into clear, distinct parts so there is no confusion over who is responsible for what. 

Encourage Collaboration, Not Competition 

It is important to frame the task as a shared mission, not a competition. Saying, ‘Let’s see how quickly you can finish this as a team,’ encourages cooperation. You should also praise specific collaborative behaviours: ‘I really liked how you waited for your sister before starting the next step.’ If a conflict does arise, gently remind them of the common goal and encourage them to find a solution together instead of arguing. 

From Chores to Acts of Unity 

By guiding children with clarity, fairness, and encouragement, you teach them that tasks are not only about getting the work done but also about practising patience, respect, and unity. These shared efforts create a sense of partnership, showing siblings that they can rely on one another. 

Spiritual Insight 

Success Through Righteousness and Patience 

Islam teaches that true success is found in faith, righteous deeds, and encouraging one another towards truth and patience. Working together on a shared task is a practical way for children to live out all of these principles. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Asr (103), Verses 2-3: 

‘ Indeed, mankind shall surely (remain in a state) of) deprivation (moral deficit), except for those people who are believers and undertake virtuous acts; and encouraging (cultivating within themselves and with one another the realisation and dissemination of) the truth and encouraging (cultivating within themselves and with one another the realisation and accomplishment of) resilience.’ 

Like a Single Body 

The prophetic tradition describes the community of believers as being like a single body; if one part is in pain, the whole body responds. This beautiful analogy teaches children that unity and mutual support are essential for a strong and healthy family. 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, 2586, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The believers, in their mutual kindness, compassion, and sympathy, are just like one body. When one of the limbs suffers, the whole body responds with wakefulness and fever.’ 

Practising Brotherhood at Home 

When children learn to complete tasks together peacefully, they are not just helping out at home; they are practising the core Islamic values of brotherhood, fairness, and patience. These daily lessons help to shape their character, preparing them for a life of service and cooperation.