Parenting Perspective 

For parents, mealtime outbursts can be among the most challenging moments of the day, particularly in public or after a long, tiring stretch. Children may throw food, refuse to eat, or become emotionally overwhelmed. These behaviours often result from low energy, overstimulation, or unmet expectations. Responding with shouting only adds to the emotional chaos and teaches children that expressing anger loudly is acceptable. 

Create calm and structure 

Handle mealtimes with: 

• A consistent schedule and setting 

• Clear communication: We are having this today, and then you may have fruit 

• Predictability to prevent frustration 

If a tantrum occurs, reduce verbal interaction and lower your tone. For example: You appear to be quite distressed. Then calmly reinforce the boundary: This is what we are providing. 

Avoid power struggles. Once calm returns, use the moment to reflect: What can we do next time when we feel this way? This models self-regulation and encourages emotional growth. Over time, children internalise that calmness is not only expected it is mirrored by those around them. 

Spiritual Insight 

Allah Almighty states in Surah Al Nahal (16), Verse 114: 

‘So eat from that sustenance provided to you by Allah (Almighty), that which is lawful and absolutely pure; and be grateful for the bestowments of Allah (Almighty), if it is the case that you seek to exclusively worship Him. ‘

This verse reminds us that food is a divine gift, meant to be treated with gratitude and respect not control or excess. Teaching this value during emotional mealtimes transforms the moment into one of spiritual learning. 

A beautiful example from the life of the Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ is found in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 2734: 

Allah is pleased with His servant who says: Al-Hamdu lillah while taking a morsel of food and while drinking. 

Encourage your child to say “Alhamdulillah” sincerely after each meal, even if it was not their favourite. You can pair it with a short family Dua: 

‘O Allah, make us thankful and calm in every moment You provide. ‘

With gentle repetition, even the most trying mealtimes become opportunities for patience, gratitude, and heartful stillness.