Parenting Perspective 

Children frequently imitate actions they observe in their environment, particularly when those actions attract attention or influence. If your child begins mimicking aggressive language, tone, or behaviour from friends, media, or siblings, it is essential to respond calmly and firmly and not with panic. 

Clearly explain that although others may behave differently, your family prioritises kindness, safety, and respectful boundaries. For instance: 

• ‘In our household, we communicate with respect, even during disagreements.’ 

• ‘We refrain from physical aggression, regardless of others’ behaviour.’ 

Building Reflective Responses 

• Invite your child to pause and consider: ‘What might happen if I do the same?’ 

• Use age-appropriate discussions or storytelling to explore outcomes and safer choices. 

• For younger children, role-play with toys to demonstrate different reactions. 

• For older children, discuss observations: ‘How do you think that behaviour affects others?’ 

• Provide positive feedback when they choose respectful responses, even if peers act differently. 

Over time, this approach helps your child build core values and establish strong emotional boundaries are keys to becoming a principled and resilient individual. 

Spiritual Insight 

The noble Qur’an encourages choosing dignity and respect even amid negative influences. 

Allah Almighty states in Surah Al Israa (17), Verse 53: 

‘And informed My servants that they should speak in only the most politest manner (when they speak to the extremists in disbelief); indeed, Satan (is always ready) to infuse anarchy between them…. ‘

This verse underscores that harmful words and actions can cause division, and that upholding respectful behaviour helps maintain unity and moral integrity. Teach your child that their reaction matters and can bring spiritual reward and closeness to Allah Almighty. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1977, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was known for responding to hostility with calm and dignity: 

The believer does not insult the honour of others, nor curse, nor commit Fahishah, nor is he foul. 

This Hadith serves as a spiritual anchor, reminding children that aggression is not part of our faith identity. Encourage them to say: 

‘O Allah, help me follow what is right, even when it is hard.’ 

Through this, children learn to lead by character, rather than follow impulse.