Parenting Perspective 

Teens often feel that notifications keep them connected and important. Directly telling them to switch off their phone may trigger defensiveness or arguments. A more effective approach is to frame the request as respect for family time rather than control. 

Explain the Purpose, Not Just the Rule 

Instead of saying, ‘Turn that off,’ explain why: ‘When we are together, I want us all to feel present. Even I put my phone away so we can focus on each other.’ Teens respond better when they see fairness and purpose. 

Make It a Shared Agreement 

Use inclusive language: ‘Shall we all put our phones on silent for this hour?’ This makes it a family commitment rather than a demand directed only at them. 

Offer Predictable Windows 

Choose specific times such as dinner or weekly family activities. When the rule is tied to a routine, it feels less negotiable yet more natural. 

Appreciate Cooperation 

When your teen silences their phone, acknowledge it warmly: ‘I liked how you switched off during dinner today. It made the time feel special.’ Positive reinforcement reduces resistance and builds motivation. 

By shifting the focus from control to connection, parents reduce arguments and help teens see that silencing notifications is a gesture of respect and love. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam encourages balancing worldly needs with family bonds, reminding us that distraction should not pull us away from what truly matters. By guiding teens to pause their digital noise during family time, parents reflect the value of prioritising relationships for the sake of Allah Almighty. 

Qur’an Guidance 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Luqman (31), Verses 19: 

‘“And be modest in your attitude and lower your voice (in dealing with people); as indeed, the harshest of all sounds, is the noise of the donkeys”.’ 

This reminds us that managing noise, including digital notifications, reflects humility and consideration for others. 

Hadith Reminder 

It is recorded in Mishkaat Al Masaabih, Hadith 3252, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The best of you are those who are best to their families, and I am the best of you to my family.’ 

This teaches us that family time is precious, and being fully present is part of good character. 

When teens are invited to silence notifications respectfully, they learn that valuing family over constant digital chatter is not a restriction but an act of Adab. Over time, this habit nurtures love, attention, and stronger family ties anchored in Islamic values.