Parenting Perspective 

When you ask a child, “How are you?” the most common answer is “fine”, a safe but empty word. To help them name their real mood, you need short, playful prompts that feel safe and specific. This teaches children emotional vocabulary while showing them their feelings are valid. The goal is not to force deep conversation but to gently open doors to self-expression. 

Use Playful Mood Prompts 

Instead of “How do you feel?” try: 

• “If your mood was a colour today, what would it be?” 

• “Are you feeling more like a balloon floating or a rock resting?” 

• “What emoji would match your mood right now?” 

Keep It Light and Brief 

Limit it to one quick question each day, so children do not feel pressured. A short check-in is more effective than a long quiz. 

Listen Without Judging 

If their answer surprises you, such as “I am grey” or “I feel heavy”, thank them and leave space. The aim is to help them name emotions, not to rush into fixing. 

Model Naming Your Own Mood 

Share your own example first: “I am a bit tired today, so I would pick blue.” Children learn emotional honesty by watching parents practise it. 

This small ritual builds emotional literacy and trust, giving your child the tools to go beyond “fine.” 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam encourages awareness of our inner states while seeking balance through remembrance of Allah Almighty. Teaching children to name their moods helps them connect emotions with self-awareness, patience, and gratitude. 

Guidance from the Noble Quran 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Ra’ad (13), Verses 28: 

‘…Indeed, it is only with the remembrance of Allah (Almighty) that one can (and does) find peace of mind and heart.’ 

This reminds us that while feelings may vary, peace is ultimately found in remembering Allah Almighty. 

Teaching from the Hadith 

It is recorded in Mishkaat Al Masaabih, Hadith 2762, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Indeed, there is a piece of flesh in the body; if it is sound, the whole body is sound. If it is corrupt, the whole body is corrupt. Truly, it is the heart.’ 

This teaches us that tending to the state of the heart, including our emotions, is central to well-being. 

By using short, creative prompts to help your child name their mood, you nurture honesty, resilience, and faith. They learn that feelings are not to be hidden behind “fine” but expressed, understood, and guided towards Allah Almighty’s peace.