Parenting Perspective 

Many parents fall into the habit of turning bedtime into an extended question-and-answer session: “What did you do at school? Who did you sit with? Did you finish your homework?” While well-intentioned, this can feel like interrogation when children are tired and ready for rest. A one-minute check-in offers a calmer, more meaningful alternative. It provides space for connection without dragging the night out or overwhelming the child. 

Keep It Light and Predictable 

Choose a single open phrase such as: “What is one good thing from today?” or “What is one thing you would like me to know before sleep?” When children know the rhythm, they feel safe to share without pressure. 

Focus on Listening, Not Probing 

Resist the urge to ask follow-ups or push for detail. Simply listen, acknowledge, and thank them: “That sounds special. I am glad you shared it.” Your calm presence means more than an in-depth conversation at night. 

Allow Flexibility 

If your child says nothing, let it be. The routine still signals: “You always have space with me.” Over time, this consistency builds trust, and they may open up on their own. 

End With Comfort 

After their response, close with a hug, smile, or short Dua. This leaves them with a sense of being heard and loved, not analysed. 

This one-minute check-in becomes a bridge of connection; short enough to fit any night, strong enough to remind children that their voice matters. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us to balance our responsibilities with gentleness, especially at day’s end. Bedtime is a moment of transition, and checking in softly before sleep allows children to end the day with reassurance and trust in Allah Almighty’s care. 

Guidance from the Noble Quran 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Inshirah (94), Verses 5–6: 

‘Thus with (every) hardship there is facilitation (from Allah Almighty). Indeed, with (every) hardship there is facilitation (from Allah Almighty). 

This reminds us that even small worries can be soothed, and gentle words at bedtime help a child feel that ease. 

Teaching from the Hadith 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6125, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Make things easy and do not make things difficult, give glad tidings and do not drive people away.’ 

This teaches us that our approach should simplify, encourage, and soften exactly what a brief nightly check-in provides. 

By replacing interrogations with a one-minute check-in, you make space for gratitude, honesty, and comfort without burden. Your child learns that being listened to with love is part of faith and family, and they can drift into sleep with both ease and remembrance.