How to Guide Kids to Bring Faith Into Their Sibling Bond 

Parenting Perspective 

Arguing Can Be an Expression of Tension 

When life feels stressful, it is natural for children to show their worries through conflict. Arguing may be their way of expressing tension that they do not yet know how to release. Wanting them to comfort one another with reminders of Allah is a beautiful goal, but it will take gentle teaching and modelling from you. 

Show Them What It Looks Like 

Begin by showing your children what it looks like to connect comfort with faith. For example, if one child is upset, you might say aloud, “I know you feel worried, let us say Hasbunallahu wa ni‘mal wakeel together.” Over time, children learn by repetition and will associate faith-based words with care. 

Create Shared Routines 

You can also create shared routines that link sibling support to worship. For instance, encourage them to make du‘a together at bedtime, or to recite short Surahs side by side. This transforms faith into a joint activity, not an individual act, which helps them feel united instead of divided. 

Avoid Pushing Reminders During Conflict 

When arguments arise, avoid pushing them to immediately remind one another about Allah, as that can feel forced. Instead, guide them to calm down first, then later highlight how turning to Allah together can ease their hearts. Praise even small attempts, such as one sibling quietly reminding the other to breathe or to say Bismillah, so they feel recognised for trying. 

Your Consistent Example Is Key 

Most importantly, remember that children learn to weave faith into their relationships gradually. Your consistent example and encouragement will make their bond stronger with time. 

Spiritual Insight 

Remind One Another of Allah 

Islam places great emphasis on brotherhood, compassion, and reminding one another of Allah in times of hardship. To nurture this spirit between siblings, guidance must come with gentleness and consistency. 

Advise Each Other to Truth and Patience 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Asr (103), Verses 2–3: 

‘Indeed, mankind shall surely (remain in a state of) deprivation (moral deficit), except for those people who are believers and undertake virtuous acts; and encouraging (cultivating within themselves and with one another the realisation and dissemination of) the truth and encouraging (cultivating within themselves and with one another the realisation and accomplishment of) resilience.’  

This highlights that believers strengthen one another not only by faith but by supporting each other in patience and goodness. Helping your children practise this within their sibling bond is a way of building lifelong habits of faith. 

Love for Your Brother What You Love for Yourself 

It is also recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Book 1, Hadith 66, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.’  

Teaching siblings to remind one another of Allah during stress is one way of living this hadith. 

By showing them that reminders of Allah are not corrections but acts of love, you guide them to see faith as a source of comfort for one another. Over time, this perspective allows them to move from arguments towards a bond rooted in patience, mercy, and shared remembrance of Allah.