What is the best way to handle it when guests or relatives bring in media that conflicts with the home’s values? 

Parenting Perspective 

Set Boundaries with Courtesy 

When a guest brings media into the home that conflicts with the family’s values, parents can feel torn between being polite and protecting their children. The best approach is to respond with both kindness and clarity. A parent can politely say, ‘In our home, we try to keep things family-friendly. Perhaps we could enjoy something else together that everyone will be comfortable with?’ This sets a clear boundary without causing the guest to feel shamed or unwelcome. 

Explain the Reason Gently to Your Children 

Children will likely notice the change and may sense some tension. It is important to speak with them privately afterwards to explain: ‘We love our relatives very much, but it is our job to protect our home and make sure it is filled with things that please Allah.’ This helps children to understand that the action was about safeguarding the home’s atmosphere, not about criticising a loved one. 

Offer Positive Alternatives 

Rather than simply rejecting the inappropriate media, a parent should be prepared to proactively offer a positive alternative. This could be suggesting a wholesome film, playing some nasheeds, or starting a family activity. By steering the environment towards something uplifting, the home can maintain its harmony while staying true to its core values. 

Spiritual Insight 

The Duty to Protect Your Family 

The Quran places the responsibility of protecting the family from harmful influences squarely on the shoulders of the believers. This includes guarding the home environment from things that could negatively impact the faith and character of its inhabitants. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Tahreem (66), Verse 6: 

‘ O you who are believers, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire (of Jahannam) whose fuel is people and stones…’ 

The Responsibility of a Shepherd 

Parents are described as ‘shepherds’ who are responsible for their ‘flock.’ This beautiful analogy teaches that parents are accountable for what they allow into their household, and they must lead with wisdom and care, even when it involves guests. 

It is recorded in Mishkaat Al Masaabih, 3685, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Each of you is a shepherd, and each of you is responsible for his flock.’ 

Upholding Values with Love 

By setting boundaries with courtesy, explaining the reasons gently to their children, and offering wholesome alternatives, parents can uphold their values without causing unnecessary offence. This teaches children that protecting the spiritual atmosphere of the home is a profound act of love, responsibility, and devotion to Allah Almighty.