What is the best way to handle it if a child copies aggressive behaviour from violent online games? 

Parenting Perspective 

When a child begins to imitate aggressive acts from violent video games, whether through overly rough play, hostile language, or a generally angry demeanour, it is often because the game has blurred the line between virtual action and real-life behaviour. It is natural for children to act out what they see, especially if they are too young to fully process the on-screen violence as fiction. Parents should address this behaviour calmly, focusing on teaching clear boundaries without making the child feel ashamed. 

Acknowledge the Influence Without Blame 

You can explain: ‘I can see that the way you were just acting is very similar to the characters in that game you have been playing. It is important to remember that games are not real life, and in our family, we must always treat others with respect.’ This helps the child to see the connection for themselves, without feeling as though they are being personally attacked. 

Set Clear and Firm Limits 

Make it absolutely clear that aggressive behaviour, such as hitting, shouting, or mocking others, is not acceptable in your home, even if they claim ‘it was just in the game.’ Clarify that showing respect to family members is a non-negotiable rule. 

Provide Healthy Outlets for Their Energy 

It is helpful to redirect their energy into positive and healthy activities. This could include sports, energetic outdoor play, or even other strategy-based games that challenge the mind without normalising violence. This shows them that having fun does not have to be equated with aggression. 

Model and Reinforce Empathy 

Use everyday moments to teach the principle of empathy. You can ask them: ‘How would you feel if someone treated you that way in real life?’ Actively building their sense of empathy is a powerful way to undo the emotional desensitisation that violent games can sometimes cause. 

By addressing the behaviour directly but with a sense of understanding, you can help your child to separate the world of digital entertainment from the development of their real-life character. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam strongly discourages all forms of aggression and teaches believers to actively cultivate the qualities of gentleness and compassion. True strength is found not in harshness or force, but in self-control and kindness. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Furqaan (25), Verses 63: 

‘ And the true servants of the One Who is Most Beneficent are those who wander around the Earth with humility; and when they are addressed by the ignorant people, they say: “Peace be unto you”.’ 

This beautiful verse can be shared with children to remind them that true honour and a noble character are demonstrated through calmness and a peaceful response to others, not through aggression. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6114, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The strong man is not the one who overpowers others [in wrestling], but the strong man is the one who controls himself when angry.’ 

This teaching provides a clear definition of real strength. It is measured not by physical force or a display of power, but by a person’s ability to maintain self-restraint. 

By combining practical correction with these timeless spiritual values, parents can guide their child away from imitating aggression and towards building the noble qualities of self-control and empathy. This helps them to learn, over time, that their true dignity comes not from acting like characters in a game, but from embodying the mercy and discipline to which Islam calls us.