How can we help children politely set boundaries with peers who pressure them to share private photos or videos? 

Parenting Perspective 

Peer pressure can make it very difficult for a child to say ‘no’. Equipping them with the right words and a strong sense of self-respect can empower them to hold their boundaries firmly but politely. 

Equip Them with Ready Responses 

Give your child a few simple, polite phrases they can use without having to think on the spot. Responses like, ‘I do not share photos like that,’ or ‘That is private,’ are clear and effective. Having a prepared script removes the pressure of the moment. 

Normalise Saying No Without Guilt 

Explain to them that saying ‘no’ to something that feels wrong is not rude; it is a sign of self-respect. Reassure them that a true friend will always respect their boundaries and will not continue to pressure them. 

Role-Play Boundary-Setting Scenarios 

Gently practise these conversations at home. You can play the role of a friend asking for a private photo, and guide them in saying ‘no’ confidently and kindly. Practice builds the confidence they need for real-life situations. 

Highlight the Risks of Sharing 

Without using scare tactics, calmly discuss the real risks. Explain that once a photo is sent, they lose all control over who sees it or how it is used. Understanding the permanence of digital content can help them to make wiser choices. 

These steps help your child feel prepared and empowered to protect their own privacy. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam gives us a strong framework for personal dignity and self-respect, teaching us to protect our privacy as a matter of faith. 

Honouring Privacy as a Form of Modesty 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah An Noor (24), Verse 30: 

‘Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts; that is purer for them…’ 

This teaches us that protecting ourselves, including our images, from improper exposure is a part of maintaining our purity and dignity as believers. 

Boundaries as a Sign of Faith 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 3976, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Part of the perfection of a person’s Islam is his leaving that which does not concern him.’ 

This reminds children that refusing to engage in conversations or share content that is inappropriate or harmful is not only a wise choice but a sign of strong faith. 

By grounding their personal boundaries in these Islamic principles, children learn that saying ‘no’ to inappropriate requests is not just a safety rule, but an act that strengthens their character and their faith.