What conversations can help children recognise when humour or trends online cross Islamic modesty boundaries? 

Parenting Perspective 

Navigating online trends requires a strong internal compass. By having open conversations, you can help your child develop the discernment to know where to draw the line between harmless fun and behaviour that compromises their values. 

Discuss the Difference Between Harmless Fun and Disrespect 

Explain that while our faith allows for laughter and fun, it sets clear boundaries against humour that insults others, mocks sacred values, or promotes indecency. This helps them understand that not every viral trend is worth following. 

Use Real Examples Without Promoting Them 

Without sharing the actual content, you can describe a situation where a popular meme or challenge encouraged rude language or behaviour. Ask them thoughtful questions about it, such as, ‘How do you think that makes other people feel?’ This encourages empathy and critical thinking. 

Teach a Simple ‘Masjid Test’ 

Give them a simple filter to use. Encourage them to ask themselves, ‘Would I be comfortable showing this to my grandparents or sharing this joke in the masjid?’ If the answer is no, it is a clear sign that it probably crosses a line. 

Highlight the Impact of Normalising Inappropriate Behaviour 

Gently remind them that sharing or even just ‘liking’ inappropriate content can make it seem normal and acceptable to others. Emphasise that their online actions influence their own reputation and the standards of their friendship group. 

These discussions empower them to be positive leaders online, not just passive followers. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam guides us to protect our hearts and tongues from that which is frivolous, harmful, or indecent. This principle of avoiding laghw (vain speech or acts) is a vital tool for navigating the online world. 

Avoiding Ill Speech 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Mu’minun (23), Verse 3: 

‘And they who turn away from ill speech…’ 

This reminds us that a characteristic of a true believer is to actively avoid speech and content, whether spoken or shared online, that is inappropriate or harmful. 

Speaking What is Good 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 47, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘He who believes in Allah and the Last Day must speak good or remain silent.’ 

This teaches us that if a piece of online content is questionable in its modesty or respectfulness, the wisest and most faith-conscious choice is to avoid engaging with it or sharing it altogether. 

By applying these principles, we teach our children that our online interactions are a reflection of our faith. Choosing to avoid and not share harmful humour is an act of dignity and self-respect that strengthens our character.