What role does modelling play in showing children what is safe to post online?
Parenting Perspective
Modelling is one of the most powerful parenting tools we have. When it comes to online safety, what our children see us do is often far more influential than what they hear us say.
Children Learn by Observation First
Long before they can understand complex rules, children learn by observing the behaviour of the adults around them. If they see you being thoughtful about what you post, they will naturally absorb this careful approach.
Demonstrate Real-Time Decision-Making
When you are about to post something, you can make your thought process audible. Simple comments like, ‘I am going to wait until we get home before I post this photo,’ turn your private decision into a public lesson.
Show Respect for Others’ Privacy
By consistently asking friends and family for their permission before you share a photo of them, you model a deep respect for privacy. This teaches your child that online safety rules are not just about protecting ourselves, but about honouring the rights of others too.
Be Consistent Across All Platforms
Whether you are on social media, a messaging app, or a community forum, apply the same principles of safety and respect. This consistency reinforces that these values are important in all digital spaces, not just on one particular platform.
Your living example is the most effective safety guide you can offer.
Spiritual Insight
In Islam, leading by example is a fundamental aspect of calling others to good. Our actions must be a reflection of the principles we claim to hold.
Leading by Example
Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah As Saff (61), Verse 2:
‘O you who have believed, why do you say what you do not do?…’
This reminds us that our actions must be aligned with our words, especially when we are in a position of guiding and teaching others.
The Power of a Good Example
It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 2674, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:
‘Whoever sets a good precedent in Islam will have the reward for it and the reward of those who acted in accordance with it’
This teaches us that modelling good behaviour, including safe and respectful conduct online, is a powerful act that can inspire and guide others while bringing us ongoing reward.
By modelling safe online behaviour, we are not only protecting our children but also establishing a good tradition in our families that, God willing, will bring continued blessings.