What is the best way to stop siblings fighting over a shared device without having to buy another one? 

Parenting Perspective 

Arguments over a shared device are a common challenge, often sparked when one child feels their turn has been unfairly cut short. Although buying a second device might seem like a simple fix, this approach often sidesteps a valuable teaching opportunity. A more beneficial path involves guiding children to learn fairness, patience, and respect when sharing a limited resource. 

Set Clear, Non-Negotiable Rules 

Establish fixed times for each child to use the device, using a timer or a written schedule so that everyone knows exactly when their turn begins and ends. This removes ambiguity, prevents arguments about unfairness, and shifts the authority from a parent’s immediate decision to the agreed-upon routine. 

Teach Turn-Taking with Grace 

Encourage your children to hand over the device willingly and calmly when their time is up. Offer praise when they manage this successfully: ‘I really appreciate how you gave your brother his turn without any fuss.’ This method uses positive reinforcement to help build a peaceful habit. 

Provide Alternatives During Waiting Time 

A child is less likely to feel frustrated about waiting if they have something else to do. Before the device time begins, suggest other engaging activities such as a board game, a new book, or outdoor play. This ensures that the waiting period does not feel like a punishment. 

Model Fairness as Parents 

Children learn a great deal by observing their parents. If they see you and your spouse taking turns respectfully with shared household items, like the television or car, they are more likely to mirror that behaviour with their own belongings and with each other. 

By managing this issue with consistency and a focus on fairness, you not only reduce arguments but also equip your children with the essential life skills of sharing, patience, and mutual respect. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, the principles of fairness and justice are highly valued, extending even to the smallest family matters. Guiding children to share with one another equitably is therefore a fundamental part of nurturing a righteous character. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Maidah (5), Verses 8: 

‘Be just; that is nearer to righteousness. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is acquainted with what you do…’ 

This verse reminds us that acting with fairness in all our dealings, including those between siblings, is a reflection of righteousness and God-consciousness (taqwa). 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 2587, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Fear Allah and be just with your children.’ 

This direct guidance teaches parents that they have a duty to act justly towards all their children, ensuring no one feels favoured over another or neglected. 

By grounding your family routines in the principle of fairness, you do more than just reduce conflict; you teach your children that justice and kindness are values beloved by Allah Almighty. Over time, the shared device is transformed from a source of entertainment into a practical training ground for developing patience, fairness, and a strong moral character.