How can I balance work-related tech use with the need to model restraint? 

Parenting Perspective 

For many parents, technology is an essential tool for work, which can make modelling screen limits feel complicated. The key is not to hide your usage, but to be clear and intentional about it so your child can understand the difference between work and leisure. 

Be Transparent About Purpose 

Help your child to understand that not all screen use is the same. You can use simple language, such as, ‘Right now, I am using my laptop for my work, just like you use your books for school.’ This helps them to see that technology can be a tool for responsibility, not just a toy for fun. 

Create Visible Work Boundaries 

If you can, try to work in a specific space or during a set timeframe. When your work is finished, make a point of deliberately putting your devices away. Closing the laptop or turning off notifications are small, visible actions that show your family that work does not endlessly spill over into personal time. 

Model Healthy Pauses 

Even while you are working, you can take short, tech-free breaks that your child is able to see. This could be getting up to stretch, having a quick chat while you make tea, or stepping outside for a moment. This subtly teaches them that screens are not the default filler for every spare minute. 

Balancing work tech with restraint is less about using screens less, and more about showing that you control the device, not the other way around. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam teaches us to apply moderation and mindful intention to all our actions. This includes how we use the modern tools that serve us in our work and daily lives. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Furqan (25), Verse 67: 

‘And [they are] those who, when they spend, do so not excessively or sparingly but are ever, between that, [justly] moderate…’ 

This principle of seeking the balanced middle way applies not only to wealth but also to how we spend our time and attention. 

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 5199, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Your body has a right over you, your eye has a right over you, your wife has a right over you.’ 

This reminds us to distribute our time and energy fairly between our different responsibilities, including our work, our personal well-being, and our connection with our family. 

By intentionally managing work-related tech use and setting visible boundaries, you guide your child towards a balanced, mindful approach to technology.