Could bedtime device use be my child’s way of self-soothing, and how do I address it? 

Parenting Perspective 

It is very common for children to use devices at bedtime to relax, distract themselves from worries, or ease into sleep. While this may appear to be a form of self-soothing, screen use can overstimulate the brain, disrupt sleep quality, and delay emotional processing. Addressing this habit involves replacing it with healthier, more restful routines. 

Understand the Root Need 

Before introducing changes, try to understand what the device provides for your child. Is it a source of comfort, a distraction from anxious thoughts, or simply a familiar habit? Identifying the underlying need will help you offer a more effective and appealing alternative. 

Introduce Calming Replacements 

Introduce a range of calming, non-tech activities to help them wind down. This could include reading a book together, listening to an audiobook or a faith-based story, doing gentle stretches, or reciting a short Surah and making Du’a. These options provide comfort without the disruptive effects of blue light. 

Transition Gradually 

If a device is a firm part of their bedtime routine, it is best to reduce its use in stages. For instance, you could begin by moving device time to earlier in the evening and then replacing the final 30 to 60 minutes before sleep with one of the calming, tech-free activities you can do together. 

By meeting their emotional needs through healthier means, you help your child develop genuine, long-term self-soothing skills that promote better sleep and emotional well-being. 

Spiritual Insight 

In the Islamic tradition, the night is designated as a time for rest, reflection, and the remembrance of Allah Almighty. Helping your child conclude their day in a state of peace and connection is part of caring for both their physical and spiritual health. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Furqaan (25), Verse 47: 

‘And it is He (Allah Almighty) Who has designated for you the night as a cover (for respite), and sleep for your rejuvenation; and designated the day for re-energising (the Earth with automated light energy)…’ 

This verse reminds us that the night is a divine provision for rest and renewal, not for overstimulation. 

It is recorded in Sunan Abu Dawood, Hadith 5046, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘When you go to bed, perform ablution as you do for prayer, then lie down on your right side.’ 

This teaches us that the Prophet ﷺ encouraged intentional and peaceful bedtime habits that are rooted in both physical and spiritual readiness for sleep. 

By substituting bedtime device use with calm, spiritually nourishing routines, you guide your child towards discovering that true comfort at night comes from tranquillity, family connection, and remembrance, not from a glowing screen.