What is a healthy way to offer comfort that does not involve handing over a device? 

Parenting Perspective 

When your child is distressed, offering comfort without turning to a device is crucial for teaching them healthier coping skills. The focus should be on providing support that addresses the root of their feelings, rather than simply distracting them. 

Lead with Emotional Presence 

Begin by simply being present with them. Sit at their level, offer gentle eye contact, and use a calm, reassuring voice. Simple phrases such as, “I am here for you,” or “Tell me what happened,” create a safe space for them to share their feelings and feel understood. 

Provide Sensory Comfort 

Comfort can also be physical and sensory. Offering a warm hug, wrapping them in a soft blanket, preparing a favourite snack, or finding a quiet corner to sit together can create a profound sense of security without any need for technology. 

Redirect into a Connecting Activity 

Once they feel a little calmer, gently guide them towards a shared activity. This could involve drawing together, reading a story, taking a walk, or doing a simple breathing exercise. These activities help them to regulate their emotions while feeling supported by you. 

When comfort is rooted in your presence, care, and engagement, your child learns the invaluable lesson that their emotional needs are best met through human connection, not digital distraction. 

Spiritual Insight 

In the Islamic tradition, providing comfort and care is a profound act of mercy. Responding with gentleness, especially during times of distress, is a defining feature of the prophetic character. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Tawbah (9), Verse 128: 

‘Without any doubt, there has come to you (O mankind), the Prophet (Muhammad ﷺ) from amongst yourself; (the thought of) your suffering weighs heavily upon him, he is extremely desirous (for the best) for you; and remains most compassionate and most merciful for the believers…’ 

This verse reminds us that true care involves genuine concern for another’s hardship and responding with heartfelt kindness and mercy. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1924, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The merciful are shown mercy by the Most Merciful. Be merciful to those on the earth, and the One above the heavens will have mercy upon you.’ 

This beautiful teaching shows that extending mercy to our children, especially in their moments of vulnerability, is a direct means of earning the mercy of Allah Almighty. 

By offering physical warmth, emotional presence, and shared calming activities instead of a device, you embody this prophetic mercy. You help your child understand that true, lasting comfort is found in love, compassion, and human connection.