Could my child’s irritability when interrupted on their device be a reflection of how I react? 

Parenting Perspective 

Yes, it is very possible. Children are masters of observation and often mirror the emotional patterns they see in us. If you typically show frustration or impatience when you are interrupted while using a device, your child may simply be adopting the same reaction when the roles are reversed. This is often not a conscious choice, but a learned emotional response. 

Notice Your Own Reactions 

Take a moment to reflect on your own behaviour. When your child tries to get your attention while you are on your phone, how do you respond? Do you let out a sigh, answer abruptly, or ignore them for a moment without explanation? These small reactions set an emotional blueprint that your child may be following. 

Observe Similarities in Their Behaviour 

Once you are aware of your own habits, look for parallels in their behaviour. If your child reacts with visible annoyance, defensive body language, or short, clipped answers when you interrupt their screen time, it is highly likely they are mirroring the approach they have learned from you. 

Model the Reaction You Want to See 

The most effective way to change their reaction is to first change your own. When you are interrupted, make a conscious effort to respond with patience. A simple, ‘I just need one minute to finish this, but I really want to hear what you have to say’, models a respectful way to handle an interruption. Over time, they are likely to adopt this calmer style themselves. 

By modelling patience and balance yourself, you can help reshape how your child learns to manage interruptions in all areas of their life, both on and off screens. 

Spiritual Insight 

In the Islamic tradition, our character is most clearly revealed in how we respond to others, and children learn their first lessons in good manners by observing their parents. Modelling patience is a profound act of teaching. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Aalai Imran (3), Verse 159: 

‘ So, it is by the mercy from Allah (Almighty) that you (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ) are lenient with them; and if you had been harsh (in your speech) or restrained (in your heart), they would have dispersed from around you…’ 

This beautiful verse reminds us that a gentle and lenient manner is what draws people’s hearts closer, whereas a harsh or abrupt approach will push them away. This is a divine principle for all human interaction. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 2003, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Nothing is placed in the scale that is heavier than good character.’ 

This Hadith teaches us the immense spiritual weight of good character. The way we respond to small, everyday moments such as being interrupted is a true test and reflection of that character. 

By making a conscious effort to react with patience and respect when you are interrupted, you not only improve your own state of mind but also set a powerful example that your child is likely to carry with them into all of their future relationships.