What boundaries can I set with friends or colleagues to protect my undistracted time with my child? 

Parenting Perspective 

Protecting device-free time with your child involves setting intentional boundaries, not just for yourself, but also for others who may expect an instant reply. The first step is to identify your non-negotiable windows for being present perhaps during meals, the bedtime routine, or the after-school catch-up. You can then inform friends and colleagues that during these specific times, you will not be available immediately but will respond later. This manages expectations and eases the pressure to be constantly connected. 

Communicate Proactively 

Make use of simple tools to communicate your boundaries proactively. Setting your phone to “Do Not Disturb” or using an auto-reply message that says, “I am currently with my family and will respond shortly,” can prevent misunderstandings. By clearly and consistently signalling your unavailability, you make it easier for others to respect your family time, and they will gradually adapt to your rhythm. 

Align Your Boundaries with Your Child’s Needs 

It is also important to explain these boundaries to your child. Saying something like, “I am putting my phone away now because this is our special time,” helps them feel secure and valued. It creates a shared understanding that reinforces the importance of your time together and shows them they are your priority. 

Spiritual Insight 

Our time is a profound trust from Allah Almighty. Using it with wisdom and intention, especially in our role as parents, is a fundamental part of fulfilling that responsibility. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Mu’minoon (23), Verses 1–2: 

‘Indeed, success is for the believers; those people who are focused in their prayers with true humility…‘ 

This beautiful description of the successful believers highlights the importance of khushu a state of humble, focused presence in prayer. The principle extends to our family life; just as distractions can diminish the quality of our worship, they can also diminish the quality of our parenting. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 3976, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Part of a person’s being a good Muslim is leaving alone that which does not concern him.’ 

This Hadith provides a powerful filter for our attention. It teaches us the discipline of disengaging from matters that are not essential, reminding us that not every notification or message requires an immediate response, especially when it comes at the expense of our children’s needs. 

By setting boundaries with clarity and kindness, you protect the sanctity of your family time and send a clear message to your child: they are more important than any incoming notification.