How can both parents stay aligned when one is more mindful about screen time than the other? 

Parenting Perspective 

It is perfectly normal for parents to have different styles, but when it comes to screen time, mixed signals can confuse a child and invite constant negotiation. The goal is not to force one parent to adopt the other’s exact view, but to create enough alignment to provide your child with a consistent and predictable framework. 

Discuss Your Views Privately First 

The first and most important step is to have an open and honest discussion with your partner, away from the children. Take the time to calmly explain the reasons behind your approach and, crucially, listen with an open mind to their concerns and perspective. The aim is to find your shared, common ground. Avoid debating the issue in front of your child, as this can undermine both parents’ authority. 

Agree on a Few Core, Non-Negotiable Rules 

Even if you cannot agree on every detail, you can almost always agree on a few core, non-negotiable rules. These might include simple boundaries like ‘no devices at the dinner table’ or ‘all screens off one hour before bed’. These shared rules create a foundation of consistency that your child can rely on, no matter which parent is present. 

Allow for Some Flexibility 

To avoid resentment between parents, it can be helpful to agree on moments where the more relaxed parent can make exceptions, as long as it does not become the new norm. This allows for flexibility and acknowledges each other’s different comfort levels, while keeping the focus on your shared, core values. 

The key is to always present a united front to your child. Even an imperfectly aligned strategy is better than none at all, as it builds the sense of stability and security that children need to thrive. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, unity and mutual respect between parents are seen as essential for raising children with a sense of stability and trust. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Aalai Imran (3), Verse 103: 

‘And hold firmly to the rope of Allah (Almighty) collectively and do not be divided…’ 

While this verse speaks to the wider community, its principle applies powerfully to the family. A shared commitment to a greater purpose in this case, the wellbeing of your children is what strengthens the parental bond and prevents division. 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 1829, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Each of you is a shepherd, and each of you will be asked about his flock.’ 

This hadith reminds us that parenting is a joint and shared responsibility. Both parents are accountable for how they guide their children. Acting in agreement, even when it requires compromise, is part of fulfilling this sacred trust together. By finding common ground, you protect your child from confusion and model the cooperation and harmony that will shape their own future relationships.