How do I encourage solo play in a child who is used to being entertained by screens? 

Parenting Perspective 

Children accustomed to the constant, fast-paced stimulation of screens can initially find solo play slow or even boring, as it requires them to generate their own entertainment. The goal is to gently help them build the ‘muscle’ of self-entertainment in small, achievable steps, until it becomes a natural and enjoyable skill. 

Start with Short, Achievable Activities 

Begin with very short periods of solo play perhaps just five to ten minutes focused on an activity that is engaging but manageable. This could be sorting toy animals, stacking blocks, or completing a simple drawing prompt. It is important to gradually extend the time as they become more comfortable. These short, successful sessions build their confidence. 

Prepare an Inviting Play Space 

Set the stage for success by preparing a dedicated play area that is safe, inviting, and free from overwhelming clutter. A small basket containing a limited selection of toys or art supplies is often more effective than a room full of choices. An organized and accessible space makes it easier for them to start and stay focused. 

Connect First, Then Separate Gently 

Before you expect them to play alone, spend a few minutes playing with them to get the activity started. Once they are engaged, you can make a warm and gentle transition. You might say, ‘I am going to make a cup of tea while you finish building that tower. Show me how it looks when I get back!’ This approach makes the separation feel like a brief and temporary pause in your connection, not a sudden withdrawal of your attention. 

Praise Their Effort and Creativity 

During and after their solo play, offer genuine and specific praise. Comment on what you notice about their efforts, such as, ‘You have been concentrating so well on that puzzle,’ or, ‘I love the interesting story you have created for your toys’. Recognising their creativity and focus makes the experience feel rewarding and encourages them to keep going. 

Solo play is a learned skill. With patience, consistency, and encouragement, your child will gradually rediscover the joy of creating their own fun, without always relying on a screen. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam emphasises the importance of fostering independence, patience, and the productive use of one’s time from a young age. Guiding a child towards the ability to engage in wholesome, independent play is a practical way of nurturing these virtues. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Najam (53), Verse 39: 

‘And they shall be nothing (to account) for mankind except what he has undertaken…’ 

This verse reminds us that effort and initiative bring their own inherent rewards. When a child learns to create their own play, they are experiencing this principle in a small but profound way. 

It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 2664, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The strong believer is better and more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, although there is good in both.’ 

This teaches us that strength of character which includes the ability to be self-reliant and to use one’s time well is a quality to be nurtured from an early age. By guiding your child towards independent play in a supportive and gradual way, you are equipping them with the patience, focus, and creativity that will serve them throughout their lives.