How do I encourage siblings to play together nicely? 

Parenting Perspective 

Setting Realistic Expectations 

It is natural for siblings to have squabbles, but regular conflicts can drain the whole family’s energy. Encouraging them to play together nicely starts with realistic expectations, children will not always get along perfectly, but they can learn to handle disagreements with respect. 

Creating a Peaceful Environment and Clear Rules 

First, create a peaceful environment for play. Choose activities suited to their ages and interests so one child does not feel left out or overshadowed. Set clear, simple ground rules: ‘We take turns,’ ‘We use kind words,’ and ‘We do not grab toys from each other.’ Remind them before play starts, not just when fights break out. 

Guiding Through Conflict 

When conflicts happen, stay calm and help them express their feelings. Instead of jumping in to ‘fix’ every argument, guide them to use words: ‘Tell your brother why you feel upset.’ Praise any effort to share, take turns, or apologise. Positive reinforcement goes a long way, children repeat what brings praise and connection. 

Building Teamwork and Connection 

Offer shared tasks that build teamwork: puzzles, building blocks, or pretend play with roles they can switch. Keep playtime short if tensions are high, giving each child space to reset. One-to-one time with each child also helps, when they feel secure with you, they are less likely to compete for your attention during play. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam encourages strong family bonds rooted in kindness and mercy. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujurat (49), Verse 10: 

‘The believers are but brothers, so make settlement between your brothers… ‘

This Ayah reminds us that nurturing peace and cooperation within the family is part of our duty as believers. 

Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ loved children and showed gentle patience when guiding them. He understood that children learn best by example and repetition, not harsh correction. It is recorded in Sahih Muslim, Hadith 1828, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Allah is not kind to him who is not kind to people. ‘

This Hadith Shareef reminds us that kindness starts at home. 

Teach your children that playing nicely is not just good behaviour, it is an act that pleases Allah Almighty. Encourage them to make a small Dua before they play: O Allah Almighty, help us play together with kindness. Praise even small efforts: a shared toy, a patient waits for a turn, or a gentle word. These moments grow trust and teach them that family life is built on mercy. 

By creating calm spaces, clear boundaries, and spiritual reminders, you help your children see one another as companions rather than rivals, building a bond that, InshaAllah, stays strong through all stages of life.