How can I make homework less stressful for my child? 

Parenting Perspective 

Creating a Calm and Predictable Routine 

Homework can feel like an uphill battle, especially for a child with additional needs. After a busy school day, tired brains can easily become overwhelmed. It helps to create a calm, predictable routine for homework. Try to use the same quiet spot each time, away from distractions like loud TV or toys. 

Breaking Down Tasks and Using Timers 

Break tasks into small, manageable steps. A big worksheet can feel too much all at once but tackling one question at a time with lots of praise can build your child’s confidence. Using a timer for short bursts can work well, aim for ten minutes of focus, then a short break to reset. Visual checklists can help your child see what they have finished and feel more in control. 

Offering Gentle Support 

Sit nearby if they need you, offering gentle prompts and encouragement rather than taking over the work. Try to avoid arguments during homework time. If things start to feel too tense, it is better to pause and come back to it later. 

Communicating with the Teacher 

Talk to your child’s teacher if homework is often overwhelming. They may be able to adapt the amount of work or the way it is set out. Remember, your relationship with your child is more important than any worksheet. Celebrate their effort and small wins, not just correct answers. With patience and understanding, you can show your child that learning at home does not have to feel like a battle. It can be a calm moment of connection and support instead. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam reminds us that learning is a noble path, but it should be pursued with compassion and realistic expectations, especially with young children. Allah Almighty knows when your child struggles to understand, and He rewards the sincere effort of both you and your child. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Mujadila (58), Verse 11: 

‘Allah will raise those who have believed among you and those who were given knowledge, by degrees. ‘

This Ayah honours every step taken to learn and to teach. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 3671, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Be kind to children and perfect in your upbringing of them. ‘

This Hadith Shareef reminds us of that kindness, patience and understanding are just as important as academic achievement. Make sincere Dua for Barakah in your child’s learning, for calm hearts during homework, and for patience when frustration rises. Read a short Dua with your child before they begin, asking Allah Almighty to ease their mind and bless their effort. Trust that your calm voice, your gentle breaks, and your warm praise are not small things, they are seeds of love for knowledge planted in your child’s heart, nurtured by your trust in Allah Almighty’s wisdom.