How to Create Everyday Moments of Connection with Your Child 

Parenting Perspective 

It is very common for parents to slip into only speaking with their children when there is a problem, a correction, or an instruction to be given. Usually, parents do not have a casual talk with their child, or they do not spend time with them without a reason. While guidance is necessary, if this becomes the main pattern, a child may begin to associate conversations with criticism rather than comfort. That can make them less likely to share openly their deeper feelings or struggles. 

It is great that you can change this dynamic by creating small, everyday touchpoints that are not about fixing or correcting. These do not need to be long or elaborate. A warm ‘How was that book you were reading?’ or ‘Tell me something that made you laugh today’ signals that your interest goes beyond problems. Similarly, shared routines, preparing food together, bedtime check-ins, or a short walk, create natural space for relaxed conversation. 

Active Listening Without an Agenda 

Another powerful tool is active listening without an aim. When your child speaks, resist the urge to immediately correct, teach, or solve. Instead, let them feel the relief of being heard. This kind of listening builds trust and makes it easier for them to open up later about sensitive matters. 

The Importance of Light-Heartedness 

It is also important to use light-heartedness and have casual discussions with your child. Jokes, play, and laughter strengthen bonds and make the relationship feel safe. When your child knows that being around you will include warmth and ease, they are more willing to share the heavier parts of their heart too. 

By intentionally balancing necessary correction with moments of warmth, curiosity, and shared time, you create an atmosphere where your child feels that you value them in all states , not only when something has gone wrong. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam emphasises mercy, balance, and gentleness in family relationships. The role of a parent is not only to correct mistakes but also to nurture love and safety so that guidance can take root in the heart of the child. 

A Reminder to Lead with Mercy and Gentleness 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Aalai Imran (3), verse 159: 

‘So, it is by the mercy from Allah (Almighty) that you (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ) are lenient with them; and if you had been harsh (in your speech) or restrained (in your heart), they would have dispersed from around you; so, then pardon them, and ask for their forgiveness (from Allah Almighty); and consult them in all matters (of public administration)….’ 

This Verse shows that even in the most serious responsibilities, the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was commanded to lead with mercy and gentleness. It was his softness that kept people close and willing to listen. Parents too are called to create this same atmosphere of compassion in their homes. 

The Prophetic Model: Mercy is Central to Parenting 

It is recorded in Jami al-Tirmidhi that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘He is not one of us who does not have mercy upon our young and respect to our elders.’ 

[Jami al-Tirmidhi,27:27] 

This Hadith places mercy at the centre of parenting. Showing mercy includes creating positive, everyday moments of connection that remind a child they are loved and valued. 

When you bring warmth, curiosity, and mercy into daily interactions, your child learns that their relationship with you is not defined by mistakes. It is defined by love, which makes space for both joy and guidance. Over time, this balance allows deeper matters to flow naturally into your conversations.