How do emotionally secure children behave differently than those who feel disconnected? 

Parenting Perspective 

Behaviours of an Emotionally Secure Child 

Children who are emotionally comfortable are more likely to be empathetic, communicate their needs clearly, and recover from setbacks more quickly. They have the courage to explore, struggle, and still feel safe because they have a relationship with a trusted adult. They have an underlying conviction that they are still loved and supported, even when limits are established or errors are made. 

Behaviours of an Emotionally Disconnected Child 

Children who experience emotional disconnection, on the other hand, could exhibit increased anxiety, clinginess, anger, or withdrawal. These acts indicate emotional instability and a need for stability rather than disobedience. The sense of safety that is felt in the connection is more important than performance or compliance on the outside.

Spiritual Insight 

Emotional security mirrors spiritual security. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Fatah (48), Verse 4: 

‘He (Allah Almighty) is the One Who has transmitted tranquillity into the hearts of the believers… ‘

It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6029, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The best among you are those who have the best manners and character. ‘

Children who experience deep love and recognition frequently behave in a way that demonstrates composure, kindness, and emotional stability. A child finds emotional control through a secure and stable relationship, just as the heart finds peace through heavenly connection. Ordinary parenting becomes a holy trust when spiritual responsibility and emotional presence are in harmony.